Category: Getting to Know You
Topic says it all, but put out there what you would like to do right before you died.
I think death by nitrogen or helium asphyxiation might be interesting, you'd get a lot of euphoria and then lights out. No headaches or anything from what I have read.
I like this topic. There are a few ways I'd like to die. I'd like to just go to sleep
like a regular day and not wake up, no pain or anything. A sudden heart attack
maybe. I've heard of people who've died from laughing too much, up to the
point where they can't breathe. That would be me, Just laugh and laugh until I
die, in fact I think that would be the perfect death. But if I were terminally ill
and in hospis, I'd like to lhave classical music near my death bed. Oh how
peaceful that would be. Thanks Leo, I'll think of more.
I thought helium would take a long time.
As for me, I'll take anything really quick, heart attack maybe. I hear they're extremely painful but I suppose I could stand it for a short while.
What a morbid topic, or maybe it's just because I'm closer to hitting that point than most, if not all, of you.
Bob
Bob, I thought the topic was morbid as well. lol
Kate
My great aunt is said to have died of a stroke while cooking lunch, and was dead before she hit the floor.
For those wanting to die of heart attack, I would say that would be a much better option.
And yeah it's morbid.
Yair, morbid, but fine.
Sense you asked, I'm not. I'm just gonna step in to my next life cycle. Kind of like opening the door and going through.
Yes, morbid.
But sense you asked!
I’m not. You see I’m just simply going to step in to my next life cycle. Kind of like opening a door, and going through.
I’d like to start my life in Jamaica, or some sort of place like that.
I’d like to grow up to be a land owner, some crop that people think they need, like coffee, sugar, marijuana, buy that time should be legal worldwide, so I’d like to grow and harvest crops like these.
Smile.
Weird. Thought I cleared the board before I typed. Guess not. Lol
forereel, not clearing the board is the first sign of altzheimers, or a stroke, or something like that.
So, forget the marijuana farm for a while.
Bob
I really do not want to die this way, but I've told some people that one day a Tesla or some other silent car is gonna get me.
I don't believe that stuff when they say that they died quickly and they didn't feel a thing. I think they say that just to make you feel better.
So I have thought about death a lot since my mom died when I was seven years old.
I decided I never wanted to die like her, alone in a hospist.
I hate being in hospitals and a hospist is just another version of a hospital.
If I am married, I want to die after my husband. I feel as if I handle death well and I don't let it ruin my life like most people do. I fear that my husband would have a hard time moving on. I don't know why but I do.
I have and still have a fear that I am going to die young. I hear this is common when a child has a parent die young. My mom was 31. My history teacher turn 31 when i had him as a teacher in highschool and I remember being so tarified he would drop dead at any day. I even told him this.
My brother and sister are now 30 and 31. I am sure this fear has crossed their mind too. I am still 25 and I know as I get closer to that age, the more nervice I will get. I don't believe I will die then though, it is just that thing. Like saying to yourself, I made it and now to clime down the other side of this mountin.
So back to the topic. The way I would choose to die if I got to die.
Gosh this is hard. I kind of would like something peaceful like in my sleep. But I would want to know it was coming long enough to set things strait. I have a wonderful friend who is dying and she has been blessed with the time to forgive those who she hasn't forgave, to give out any words or gifts she desires and to say her goodbyes. I use to be so scared to die because I have a large chance of dying just like my mom did. I took the time to speak with a lady who works in hospist and she told me that in the end, everyone dies the same. You die because your organs stop working. She has seen lots of death and this made me feel better. I know it all seems strange and all but like I said. I have had a lot of time to think about it. To much time.
Mr. Crazy's father died at the age of 44. This is causing Mr. Crazy to think about such things.
As for me, I don't know how, given the choice, I would like to die.
Nicky, I think it's great that your friend is able to say her goodbyes and forgive... but it serves as a reminder for us to live in such a way as to forgive others when we can, and tell everyone we love that we love them.
Kate
when I'm very, very old; in my 90s or past the century mark in my sleep. But I strongly suspect I'll be entering just another life cycle again. I kinda like the belief in reincarnation, if there's anything after this life. So, a vacation in the hereafter perhaps? Then onto something else? I can deal with that, but today's a good day for thinking about things like that.
Yeah, definitely morbid. When I die, I don't want to know it's happening. Fast, in my sleep, would be my choice.
as long as I don't have to suffer greatly, when I die, it wouldn't make a difference how it happens.
Last meal?
What would you want to eat and drink before you bump off?
Or last activity? What do you want to do before you drop dead?
I would want to skydive before dying, if I knew it would be one of the last things I did.
My last meal would be all types of snack foods - crackers and chips with vegies and cheese, etc., with all my friends, and we would snack late into the night while playing insane amounts of board games/card games
I"d load myself with all kinds of snacks, mmmmmmmmmmmmmmm! i"d also
buy an expensive champagne and drink it all, play a little music for the time
remaining and drop dead. lol!
To quote an old joke:
"I want to die in my sleep like my grandfather did, not screaming and yelling like the passengers on his bus."
And because I agree with those who said this topic is morbid, I really don't want to think about dying too much.
I agree this topic is morbid. However i think dieing is a very natural part of the
cycle of life, and thus it's healthy to talk about it. It's not something one can
avoid, and it is very painful to handle. It's not like the things we wish could
happen before we die will happen anyway, nor are we emo about it or wishing
death on others. I see nothing wrong with a little humor and imagination in
regards to this topic. I do understand when one's just lost a loved one and it
becomes extremely sad to discuss. But I think it's perfectly OK to talk about it
and imagine or have some ideas before or after death...
I heard a news story last year of "morbid cafes" for lack of a better term. Groups of strangers meet up once a week/month or whatever at this cafe and discuss death, arrangements, survival, whatever... THAT, I think, is odd.
Kate
The part about your last activity before you die? I don't think I oughtta say more.
Wondered when someone was gonna say what we all were thinking hahaha
to those who think this topic is morbid, I'm of the opinion that death shouldn't be as taboo as it seems to be, with many people.
it's a natural part of life, for crying out loud. and, from where I'm standing, at least, it's better to talk about such realities, than to just keep things inside.
regarding comebacks, I didn't think of a good one till just now.
honestly, though, I'd rather die cumming and going at the same time :)
I'm not sure how i'd want to go, though I do have my "funeral" plans picked
out, if you can call them that.
I don't want a normal funeral. for starters, its boring, depressing, and churches
have never really meant all that much to me. Neither does the thought of
buying a plot in a graveyard, at huge expense, and then paying for the coffin,
etc after the fact.
So, even though its not officially in my will yet, because I don't have one, its my
intent that I be cremated, and that my ashes are loaded in to fireworks. Lets
make it a celebration of life, not a gloomy day of death.
There ar a few companies in the states that provide these services, and the
pricing looks more reasonable than a normal funeral.
they can, and usually do build the display around a song. I know which one I'd
prefer, as do many of my closest friends.
Interesting topic. I wouldn't mind dying instantly or quickly all though instant death tends to be pretty gory or nasty and it would be hard for those who are close to me, but I'd be dead so it wouldn't really make a difference to me at least. I would also rather die in a way that was unexpected, rather in a situation where it is obvious I will die after suffering for an extended period of time. And as an extra bonus, though this would rather be unlikely, the top way I would choose to die would be from doing something honorable, like saving someone's life or taking a risk to save several people's lives at the expense of my own.
Yeah, Skydiving and good sex.
But what if the doctors were wrong?
They say you only have a week to live, so you go do everything you'd not do if you felt, can't know, you were going to live a long time?
I would like to die like my grandfather, nice and peaceful in his sleep, not like the passengers, screaming in his car.
Hmmm, wonder where I heard that before? Maybe in my own answer to the question? Except it was a bus in my joke.
I like the fireworks one. I never want to be barried away and just left there to rot. I also thought of the idea of being turned in to a stone. I heard that you can pay big money to get your ashes turned in to a stone then put in to a ring or something ... That could be great if you have kids or a family member who would actually want it.
Oh I didn't know that. I found this really cool website where you can find
different kinds of urns in all shapes and sizes. If you'd like i can post it. I'll have
to research the ring. interesting
I'm with James, in that I definitely don't wanna be in a grave. ashes all the way.
Me too. I find the idea of being in a grave to be unbearable. I don't exactly know what I want to be done with my ashes, but I most certainly do want to be cremated when I die, and I've actually known that since I was quite young, probably before most kids ever considered such things.
As for the question of how I would like to die, I definitely want to go peacefully, preferably in my sleep. I don't want to suffer a lot (well, who does?), but I've seen several people I love go through a lot of suffering before it was their time, and it's heartbreaking to watch. So, I really hope that my own death is quick and painless.
Here's my preference: I want to die in my sleep, not too old but not too young either. I want to have a dinner with my closest friends and loved ones--sushi preferably or indian food--a few hours before. I want to enjoy a nice spring or summer evening on a patio, listening to my significant other play guitar--maybe drink a huge iced coffee before bed... because I can. lol. Then I want to have a round of fantastic sex--a nice long shower. then sleep... and never wake up. that's how I want to go.
I wouldnt' want to die during sex because as nice as it sounds to have an orgasm before you die, well, just think of the memories your last partner will have of the last time with you... I wouldn't want to inflict that upon my partner. lol.
I want to be cremated, and sorry james, I'm stealing your fireworks idea. thanks. I'll repay you in the next lifetime. lol.
If I ate sushi I probably would die, right then and there.
Youb say you wouldn't want to be too old or too young, why's thatt.
I'm older and enjoying every minute of it. I have arthritis and other crap that goes with aging, but I'm not ready to go, not nearly.
When my time comes I hope it's quick and quiet.
Bob
I've thought of how my partner would feel if I died during or after sex, and I'd hope they'd treasure the experience as I would, rather than be sad about the fact that that was the last thing I was doing.
I agree wholeheartedly with what I saw someone say in another post; it might have been on another topic, but it applies to death.
the person said something to the affect of, "celebrating people's life, is far more important than being sad about their death."
I'm not saying, or even implying, that we shouldn't be sad, for a time, but that we should also do our best to think about the goodness that person brought to our lives/the world as a whole. I'm sure that's the light most people would wanna be seen in.
Who's talking about being sad, chelsea. In terms of having your partner die on you during sex. I'd be a little creeped out before I became sad. lol
No. In all seriousness though. I think it would be a bit of a stigmatizing experience for the surviving partner no matter how good of an outlook you may have on it in theory. Just my two cents.
Blbobby, I meant I dont' really want to go when I'm something like a hundred or in my nineties... I'd want to go a bit sooner. I saw my great grandma live till she was ninety six and she was a miserable old bat... not just when she got older, but all of her life... so though people went to visit her and they took care of her, it was more out of obligation than love. Also any friends she might have had in her lifetime had died long before her. She had to be on morphine for the last seven years of her life or so because of extreme osteoperosis and leg pain. She never had a brief moment of comfort, and she was more bitter in her nineties than she was during her younger days.
I want to still know people when I die. I want to have real connections with people and not just be a neuscance to my great grand children and nurses and what not. I don't want to become so diluted with pain and discomfort that I become intolerably crabby. that's what I meant by not being too young and not too old.
Either nitrogen or helium, whichever is most easily available. I've heard you zonk out within five seconds.
Oh, and as I've said before, I'll go when my hearing's so far gone that I can no longer enjoy music and such things.
Lol you're right; it was a joke I quoted in my prev post. :)
Sill not sure if I want to be buried or cremated
Bernadetta, you and others have said that you wouldn't be able to see such an experience in the light that I do, and that's what made me address the sadness aspect of this broad discussion.
as long as I'm still able to communicate with people and have fun, though, I won't place a limit on when, exactly, I'd like to die.
Leo, you are a sick fuck!
Now that I've gotten all that aggression out, let's see...
I don't really care, in my sleep, quietly.
My doctor says I'll probably die of lung cancer if I don't quit smoking.
My response was "bet you." sometimes you just have to take the bull by the horns...
But, as others have said, it's not how you die, but, how you live.
So, back to the boards.
Bob
I would like to die inside a church organ. It sounds haunting and beautiful.
I'd like to die without a sigh, or a cry, perhaps after eating an apple pie?
There are a few ways that I'd like to die. One would be to die on stage, right at the end of the best gig of my life. Just as the song finishes, aa huge spotlight comes crashing down on top of me, and kills me instantly. Another is one that's more or less been said on here before. I'd love to go somewhere swanky or centimental, and have one final blowout weekend, and go to bed on the sunday, with a head full of boos and glorious memories. One that came to me while reading this board, is to die at sea. On a small boat, with my final meal, my final drink, and my final song in my lungs.
DrummerD, you said "go to bed on the sunday, with a head full of boos and glorious memories"
Well, the booze is quite possible, but not the memories.
Don't forget, we're talking death here, (finale, kaputz).
So forget your memories or what others think of you, etc. we're talking about nothing, nada!
So: how would you like to cease to exist?
Bob (god I think I'm becoming an existentialist)
Certainly nothing wrong with that. In fact, existentialism, nihilism, that sort of thing interests me.
Well, me too, but I always considered them philosophical wash outs.
You know, "don't worry about the big questions because we're all there is."
Just my thoughts.
Bob
Told you Bob I'm taking mmy memories with me.
You know how you think you did that or were on the spot before?
Are you talking about deja vu?
There's nothing worse than having deja vu and amnesia simultaneously.
Bob
* all there is?
So if by "All there is," you mean all that you have given, done, contributed to society, and even your own offspring should you have any. And all those you have affected. I should say that is quite a lot we have.
I really hope to die knowing I have done the best by my loved ones, and that for them their version of what they think will be afterwards, they won't be tormented by an image of me being in some kind of hell. I think my thoughts would be for them at that time, because honestly for me it wouldn't matter that much longer, so enjoy and make sure all is well for them. By 'them' at present I mainly mean the Wife and the Daughter.
I'm gonna haunt and torment any living people who picked on me for being blind.
It's not that I fear death, but I am so afraid of dying knowing that I'm dying,
like drowning or in a car crash or be diagnosed with cancer and being told i
have an X amount of time to live. Sure I'd have my bucket list, but You here of
people who are ill and they know they're going to die, and it's not an easy thing
to go through, I witnessed it myself. I got to be with someone at their last
moments of life and it was very hard because you there's a time when you think
they're better but they're really not. Then the the rattling noise and such, it's
not an easy thing to go through watching. But my point is that it's peaceful
afterwords but while a person is letting go it's very painful. I don't know, this is
why I think it's healthy to talk about death because we can't avoid it and I think
it's good to have some ideas on how we'd like for it to happen even if it really
won't.
<lol> Imprecator, what are you going to do? trip them up with your cane?
Bob
I'll cause knives or other sharp objects to gouge their eyes out.
Woe, this guy has serious hostility issues.
Bob
Only toward those who deserve it. Lol.
I don't think the op's title is a mandate it's a question for Christ's sake.
Do you have access to firearms or sharp instruments?
Bob
Gettin' tetchy, are we? Don't make me get the invisible poltergeist feather to tickle torture ya.
Hey that sounds like fun!
Oh and for my last meal, a chicken vindaloo, naan bread, and a bottle of Taj Mahal. That's an Indian beer. Or, perhaps several bottles of it. Die drunk and happy. That's the ticket.
Ah my last meal would be a Roast chicken and crispy baked potatos. :)
Ummm that sounds good, or crispy fried chicken with a tall glass of sweet tea.
Bob
Ideally, I would want to die very old (maybe 100), and peacefully, in my sleep. I pray that I reach my ultimate goal before then, which is to become a Greek citizen, and to do something good for my country. But if I should die in her service, I wouldn't mind that either. Don't ask me how, since I can't join the army. But the willingness to serve is there. Who knows? Perhaps, if we have another revolution, like 21 April, 1967, I could work for our new national saviours, and might be sent on a special and dangerous mission of some kind. haha
Last meal: steak and eggs with real hash browns, some good coffee, and knock myself off with some booze before the event.
Somewhere on the vast internet someone has published what condemned criminals order for their last meal.
I looked at it once, and most of the meals seemed pretty mundane to me.
Bob
Actually, I want a day of last meals. The vindaloo and beers can be dinner. For breakfast, scrambulated eggs, bacon, sausage, pancakes, hash browns, chicken-fried steak, and coffee. Lunch, pizza with pineapple and Canadian bacon on it.
I must find that link Bobby; would love to read it :)
Okay, check this out.
http://www.famouslastmeals.com/
That doesn't look right.
It's http://www.famouslastmeals.com/
Bob
I suppose I should eat some bananas just before death so I don't make a great big poopy mess.
eww! That stinks.
Bob
I hope I go in my sleep. No terminal illness or anything scary, like complications from a surgery or really, really severe burns, just natural causes. fall asleep and never wake up ...